A Strong Woman

Last night at Radio 1003, 文鸿 read a newspaper report (晚报) of how a woman stalked at Geylang to catch the woman her husband was cheating on her with. After 3 days, she finally found the woman and confronted the woman. She scared the woman off and got her husband back. 利美 was asking what's the use of the husband like this? She may psychically got back the husband but what about his heart? So 文鸿 asked listeners to call in to relate their similar story.

The first caller was a woman. She told her story as if it's a 3rd party. Even Wen Hong was surprised how calm and detached she is. This is her story:

The woman has been suspecting that the husband has been fooling around with their maid. But this maid had been with her for years and had been very reliable and trustworthy. So one day, she decided to test her suspicion. She pretended to go out to run an errand leaving the children, her husband and the maid at home. But she returned in less than 1/2 hour.

Quietly she opened the front door. Her children came to greet her. She asked her child where the maid was. The child said the maid was in daddy's room. She went straight to the room which wasn't locked and caught her husband and the maid having sex.

She related she had goosebumps all over her body and she started screaming. Her 2 children were really good. The elder one brought the younger one to their room to watch TV. They were 5 and 2. She was so mad at the maid for betraying her trust that she went to the kitchen to get the knife. The husband stopped her and told her not to blame the maid as it's all his fault. (WTF!!! That's the worst thing you can say to your wife I believe. Defending the other woman. ) That's when she started beating up the husband.

After she had calm down, she called all his family members, her family members, all his friends to come over to the house and exposed his deed. Then she chased him out of the house and filed for divorce. This happened 1 1/2 year ago.

She said if she had not seen them together, she may not have been this strong. But seeing them having sex in her bed, there is no way she can take it. Now she is happy single parent.

I think she is strong woman. Not a lot of woman can/will do what she had done. The woman's heart is so soft sometimes they will backed out on their plan to leave the husband. Anything empty promises made by the cheating husband would seems like genuine to some woman and thus, the cheating husband will continue to cheat.

However, there are cases where the husband really repent, they work out their relationship and continue to walk the journey as husband and wife. But I also wonder if the relationship is as good as before? Will the wife doubt the husband again? Will this cancer eventually eat up the wife?

I once saw in a forum where someone said that for a wife who decided to stay, to work on her marriage, she deserve a pat on her back because she didn't give up. But sometimes I wonder is it worth it? The sufferings, the suspicions, the ... whatever one goes through when they found out their husband cheated on them.

Why can't man stay faithful?
Why can't man stay commited to their wife?
Why does man seek sex outside when he can have it with his wife?
Why can't man control themselves?
Is sex so important to a man that he will even have it with the maid?

Lots of calls came in in regard to man caught having sex with their maid. Is this another problem that Singaporean has to face? Gosh!!!

A man called in and said that his sister-in-law's (his brother's wife) brother had an affair with her maid. Later her brother divorced the wife and marry the maid. Now her ex-maid is her sister-in-law.