It's okay because it's for the family

A mother, T, was sharing that her husband bought a new car knowing that she disapprove of it. He brought her to see the car and she shared her disapproval to change their car. But few days later, he came home from work telling her he has bought that car.

She was fuming mad. So she was sharing it in our parenting forum.

One mom said "you are lucky he is spending it on the family and not on some other woman".

Other mom said " better for him to be spending on cars than drinking/gambling, or worse, women leh!!"

What the hell is that?
What if he is making this purchase to impress the other woman?
What if he is making this purchase to cover up for what he has been spending on the other woman?
Comments like this tick me off. Sometimes I feel that people make comments like this because they didn't experience it. When it happened to them, they will be singing a different tune.

Personally, I feel that T is mad not so much about the money they have to spend financing this new car. It's the act of purchasing the car knowing that she disapprove of it.

I would think that when a couple wants to make a purchase of this nature where the $$$ will be a huge sum, they should talk it over. They should weigh out the pros and cons, the needs and wants issue and come to a conclusion together if it's right to make the purchase. After all, you are a couple. You are suppose to make decision together right?

This is not like woman going out to spend on a $10,000 handbag. A car with a well-established brand can cost as much as a house in some countries. You don't go and make such purchase without telling your partner, do you? Of course if you are a millionaire and this little spending is just a drop in the ocean for you, that's a totally different story. However, for an average middle-income family, buying a car is a huge commitment, especially in a country like Singapore.