You call this average?

A mother wrote this:

Being an average mother, I have average expectations for my kids:
1. Stay healthy
2. Try their best and constantly stretch themselves (not me stretching them)
3. Able to think for themselves intelligently and morally

For my ds, I hope he can get his basic degree and be his own boss. Have a successful business that he can comfortably employ all the top brains to work for him. Not forgetting a happy marriage and family.

For my dd, also expect a basic degree and marry a loving husband that can provide and allow her to make her own choices, e.g. to work or not.

To me, top academic results does not guarantee success in life. I would want them to appreciate life and live a colourful life happily.

You call this average? I really want to know what's high in her book. I call this a high order and if she voice this out regularly to her kids, I really pity them. The pressure to succeed. To stress not to fail. Gosh...

Why is it that one always measure a happy life with monetary value? As in having a successful business, marry a rich man. I am very sure she is not the only who has this mentality. Majority of the people equate a successful life to being rich.

Have they ever thought being rich means one has a status to upkeep, an image to uphold.
Do they know the commitment one has to put into a successful busines? Employing top brainer to work for you is not the deal. You have to be personally involved or else, these top brainer will run away with your successful business. And having a business that bring in the $$$ doesn't mean you sit in the office and wait for the $$$ to role in. You need to entertain, you need to socialize with so-and-so, to bring in more business to make more $$$.

The chinese has a saying: 儿孙之有儿孙副 .(I hope I remember this correctly)
Let them find their own destiny. Let them search for their own happiness.

To me, experience is everything. If you think they are heading in the wrong direction, give them a few pointers, let them decide. Don't put pressure on them. They have enough pressure and stress from school.